Brock Davies has broken his silence on the affair he had while his wife, Scheana Shay, was pregnant.
“It was a sexual affair. There was no dating. There was no courting. It was just purely that. Meet up and we’d have sex,” the fitness trainer shared on Shay’s “Scheananigans” podcast Friday.
He said it happened “multiple times” over three weeks, but he stopped cheating because he “felt horrible about it.”
“I was like, ‘This is not OK, not doing this.’ And I pulled the pin and then I forgot about it,” Davies added.
The identity of his mistress has not been revealed, but the affair was exposed when Shay wrote about it in her new memoir, “My Good Side,” which was just released this week.
The “Vanderpump Rules” alum wrote in the book, “My whole body froze, and I remained in a state of paralyzed shock as he confessed that he’d cheated on me two years prior, when we were living in San Diego during the [COVID-19] pandemic, while I was pregnant with Summer.“
“As I sat there, feeling completely sick to my stomach, he admitted that — at the time — he was scared about being a father again, specifically about whether he even deserved to be, and he chose to deal with it by sleeping with someone else.”
Since then, Shay said she did not reveal her husband’s affair on “Pump Rules” because she was still processing the situation off-camera. She also wanted to protect their daughter and didn’t want to take away from her ex-co-star Ariana Madix going through her own cheating scandal, which became a media firestorm.
Davies, for his part, shared on “Scheananigans” that it took him time to fess up to his affair because he was “just protecting” himself.
“I was an absolute coward,” he reflected. “I would just minimize my actions and compartmentalize it. … I believed that I was never going to do it again and just [had to] move past this. It was selfish. It was a self-preservation tactic.”
However, he realized that to have “a healthy relationship” with Shay, “one based on complete honesty,” he “needed to address this.”
Since then and through therapy, he has learned more about why he cheated, pointing out that they are not an “excuse” but “context.”
Davies explained that, growing up, he faced a lot of “instability” by attending 15 different schools, which led him to be hyper-focused on his achievements and turned him into an “egomaniac.”
“I detach from a lot of my emotions easily, I minimize a lot of my destructive qualities and … my actions,” he added, stating that those characteristics “did not serve him well” as a father and husband.
By Shay deciding to stay with him, he said that he’s taken accountability for his actions and truly made efforts to make a real change in his life.
“I know what I was, I know what I did and I know what I could have lost and that’s what helps me focus on my family more,” he said. “At the end of the day, what I’ve done doesn’t define who I’m going to become.”
He also expressed his support for his wife sharing what they went through in her memoir because she has “every right” to tell her story how she wants.
He told her, “I’m proud of you for telling your story and I’m sorry for this being a part of your story.”
Davies and Shay secretly tied the knot in 2022 before hosting a larger celebration in Mexico the following year.