Jessie Cave, best known for her role as ‘Lavender Brown’ in the Harry Potter films, recently made headlines after she claimed she had been barred from a fan convention after launching an OnlyFans page. She pointed out the double standard, noting how actors with unclothed or explicit scenes in films still appear at fan events. Her comments have reignited debate about how women are treated in fandom spaces and whether personal projects should dictate their ability to connect with fans.
All debates aside, the Harry Potter alum finds her greatest joy in motherhood and comedy, the very world that brought her to her comedian husband, Alfie Brown. Cave and Brown’s famously chaotic marriage has survived two splits, four children, and a lifetime of oversharing; yet somehow, they keep finding their way back to each other.
So, who is Alfie Brown, the comedian behind Jessie Cave’s quirky and equally whirlwind love story?
Jessie Cave gets banned from fan meet after joining OnlyFans
Popularly known for her Harry Potter stint, Jessie Cave has carved a unique identity with her unfiltered choices, candour, and, of course, her chaotic marriage with Alfie Brown. Most recently, the actress revealed she was barred from a Harry Potter fan convention after joining OnlyFans.
Cave explained that her page wasn’t explicit in any sense and rather focused on quirky and sensual hair content. Yet, organisers cited the page’s ‘adult’ association as the reason for her exclusion. The Summerhill actress wrote via Collider:
“I found out that I didn’t get booked for a ‘Harry Potter’ convention recently, as I’m now doing OnlyFans. They explained it was because it’s a ‘family show and OnlyFans is affiliated with p–n.’ This was baffling to me, as some actors who do conventions (most actors, actually) have done TV and films in which they’ve done s-x scenes and n-dity. I’m just playing with my hair!”
Jessie’s post has since grabbed global attention, sparking interest in her personal life, especially the life she has built with her long-time partner, Alfie Brown.
Who is Alfie Brown?
Alfie Brown, born in 1987, is an English stand-up comedian and the son of music composer Steve Brown and renowned impressionist Jan Ravens. Given his artistic roots, he discovered his talent for witty wordplay and began performing stand-up in 2006 at the Laughing Horse New Act of the Year competition. He quickly gained attention at the Edinburgh Festival, earning a reputation for sharp, observational, and often controversial comedy.
Alfie Brown faced a career setback in 2023 after an old video of him using a racial slur resurfaced. He quickly apologised, stating he had long regretted the ‘wrongful and hurtful’ remark. Despite this, he remains one of the top names in British stand-up comedy. In 2022, he was nominated for an Edinburgh Comedy Award and won a Chortle Best Show award. The List even hails him as ‘the future of British stand-up’.
Meeting Jessie Cave: how a one-night stand turned their story around
While the world might know Jessie Cave from the Harry Potter movie franchise, she has quite a name for herself in the world of comedy. The actress met Alfie Brown in 2012, when the two attended the Edinburgh Fringe. Two years later, they had a date, which culminated in an impromptu one-night stand.
They went home together that night but didn’t see each other again – until four months later, when Jessie discovered she was pregnant with their first child. Although they weren’t officially a couple at the time, the news of parenthood brought them closer and changed their lives forever, creating a bond that would last a lifetime.
Alfie Brown and Jessie Cave later shared how they launched their relationship with instant parenthood before they could even realise they were a couple. They tied the knot in 2014, the same year they welcomed their first child, a son, Donnie. Since then, the comedic duo has welcomed three more children in the mix: Margot in 2016, son Abraham in 2020, and baby Becker in 2022.
Inside Alfie Brown and Jessie Cave’s whirlwind relationship
Considering the way they began their relationship, Cave and Brown’s road to a successful marriage has been anything but smooth. In 2018, when little Donnie was four and Margot was only a few months old, the couple broke up. The split was complicated, as neither of them actually wanted to break up. Cave told The Sunday Times:
“We broke up when she (Margot) was only a few months old. It suddenly all felt so grown-up: I was insecure and thought we needed to develop as adults on our own. In truth, I never actually wanted to break up, but the idea snowballed, and then it was too late.”
In the interview, Jessie revealed she was unsure about the longevity of the relationship, but after time apart, they reunited with a more positive perspective. The actress shared:
“We got back together after a couple of years of angst and personal growth. Both of us now agree that the breakup was worth it.”
Using comedy as a couple’s therapy
In February 2025, Jessie Cave and Alfie brown launched their podcast, Before We Break Up Again (BWBUA), where they discuss the highs and lows of parenthood and the challenges that have tested their relationship. In the first episode, the Harry Potter actress revealed that she secretly split from Alfie a second time, admitting that they could break up again.
The couple joked about the idea that the podcast would run “from now until we break up again.” The show has since explored various aspects of Cave and Brown’s whirlwind romance and challenges as a couple, their time as exes and their roles as co-parents during the split. Speaking about the highs and lows of their marriage, the couple shared:
“We started our relationship at level 8, without any of the lessons you learn on level 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 or 7. We definitely have a different rulebook.”
Jessie and Alfie’s unfiltered honesty on everything, from monogamy to trauma, has become their brand. At times, the oversharing has raised eyebrows, but Jessie insists she “wouldn’t know how to do anything without talking about my life.”
Jessie Cave talks about joining OnlyFans
In March 2025, Cave shocked fans by announcing she had joined the adult platform, OnlyFans. However, contrary to popular belief, the ‘Hogwarts’ alum uses the platform not for explicit content, but to share sensual hair-related content, citing financial constraints that made her choose the platform.
Messy? Absolutely. But their love story, riddled with breakups, makeups, and raw comedy, is proof that sometimes dysfunction makes the best material.
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