Grace Van Patten and Jackson White aren’t hiding their relationship, but they also keep most details about their offscreen love close to the vest. The actors play characters in a toxic romance in Hulu’s Tell Me Lies and are also dating IRL.

Of course, White is nothing like the emotionally abusive, manipulative, and controlling character he plays on the show, and in rare comments about her partner, Van Patten opened up about what it’s like to work with him when he has to act that way.